Friday, August 16, 2013

Homework Break

I am still very hurt and frustrated by my IP's and their doctor being so quick to give up on me. I'm sure it will be something that never completely heals. I'd invested a lot of trust and love into a friendship with complete strangers in another country. I didn't realize awesome surrogates were so plentiful that you could dump one so soon into a journey when things weren't perfect. My heart is definitely aching. I was 100% committed and in this for the long haul, but they gave up on me without trying all we could. But I am not giving up on my dream of being a surrogate. Giving up on my dream would mean somewhere out there, a couple doesn't get the baby they so desperately long for. So I won't go down without a fight.

I'm pretty scrappy. It's a side effect of being short.

I have spent yesterday and today researching surrogacy agencies to find a new one. I love Circle but they are unable to rematch me thanks to the doctor. So I have to find a new one, and it's hard to even know where to start! I chose Circle because the only surrogate I actually know personally used them for both of her journeys. I never even looked at other agencies. So now here I am, relying on the advice of online surrogacy forums. I have been looking for positive and negative feedback, and I just found a forum thread where people were saying who they would NOT use for surrogacy. I was reading it very intently and making intently that I wrote down one person's warning of "Do not use Amy Poehler" before I realized it was a joke.

I think it's time for a homework break!


  1. lots of people love growing generations. i was with extraordinary conceptions and liked them a lot. good luck!

  2. How sweet! I enjoyed reading everything you said about surrogates. I believe that surrogacy is a blessing in disguise for couples who cannot have a pleasure to have their own child. Keep writing good blog posts like this one.

    Kunik Goel
    Surrogacy In India

  3. Hey Becca,
    I'm with GG, but at onset my first choice was circle. Mainly because of Jeni. I had to work with GG because of where I live geographically. But as our relationship has grown I have found a lot to like about the agency. We have women on natural cycles and a mess of different medicated cycle styles. We have surrogates from EVERY walk of life. Surrogates, like myself, that other agencies won't touch. I'd love to chat with you about what I've come to know about my agency if you're ever interested.